Counseling psychologist Benjamin Zulu has now come out to say that there should be boundaries between married men and their house helps.
While speaking on Citizen Television, Zulu said that it should be their wives’ responsibility to take care of the house helps as they have the power to hire and fire them.
“A house help should be the wife’s assistant and not the husband because the wife is the one with the power to hire and fire. She should be the one to give instructions on the house chores to be done,”
He went ahead to say that men should not have direct access to the house help as it will help them keep the respect between them.
“There should be no direct interaction with the man of the house because of the authority he holds in a home and there should be a certain distance of respect,” he reiterated. Zulu also said that couples should assist their house helps if they show an interest in improving themselves.
“Being a house help is nobody’s dream job. Life circumstances cause them to look for such jobs and they are using it as an avenue to step to their next level. Do not restrain them. If they want to go to college help them. Someone who has the vision to move forward will help you,” he continued.
Zulu who is known to thrive in controversies in August said that men should not pay school fees to their girlfriends before marrying them.
According to him, women are very crafty and calculative, they always get into relationships with intention of being educated, then leave once they have accomplished their missions.
“You promise her that you will take her to school and that is all she wanted and she now feels happy and excited that she will now attend school,” said Zulu on Citizen TV.
“But the problem is there was nothing tied to marriage in her thoughts. Her mind has not fully developed and men know women’s brains get to fully develop at 25 years but they still love engaging young women into relationships,” he said.
“Problem is when this young lady starts to learn and her brain is developing she is exposed to more things and when she fully develops she withdraws from you because her priorities and preferences have changed,” he noted.